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Listening to Kate Gosselin in yet another TV Special – no one will ever be able to say that she has violated her contract with TLC – has probably made many people think: What has happened to Jon and Kate? First we listen to Jon talking about his spiritual self and a newly found focus on the children and now it is Kate who feels sorry for things she has done and expresses that, in some way, she may always love Jon. Well. At least the memories they shared. There was also the Kate that we have seen in the past weeks, but we wonder whether Jon and Kate have finally found the right path?
There may be an easy answer to the Gosselin behavior. Divorces are exhausting and, at some point, many divorcing people question whether it is all worth it – whether it is worth the battle considering the enormous emotional and financial casualties a divorce war will bring (read our article about divorce wars here). Over the past few days, it seems that Jon has calmed down and even had a few friendly words for Kate, stating that he is ready to apologize:
“I’ll apologize to her for openly having relationships in the public eye,” he said. “That was a huge mistake, because if she would’ve done that to me, I would have been extremely pissed off. Not because our relationship is over, it’s almost like a stab in the back. And now that I think about it, it was a very wrong thing to do. I definitely regret it.”
Even earlier on Monday, twittered with an explicit focus on the children: “Going home to see my kids,-excited, but i’ll miss Hailey =-(. She has made me realize I need to be an honest person/father for my kids.” A few hours later, he added: “Came home to my [kids], got big HUGS! Made Dinner, and cleaning up so we can then all watch a movie. Read Hailey’s tweet, Still miss her though”
And later, it was Kate’s time to react to Jon and say a few nice words. “I was very hard on him and I would never deny that,” she said. “I felt very much like a lot of weight rested on my shoulders. […] I was wrong to treat him that way. Was it good, healthy and wonderful? No. Am I proud of those moments that were captured? No.”
From time to time, there was a spark in Kate’s words that showed a certain respect for what Jon was to her and that she misses him in some way “I still wake up every day, and I think the phone will ring … and it’ll be the old Jon.” So, is there anything left? Perhaps not so much, as she also showed signs that she is moving on – moving on past the 10-year marriage, past the frustration, past the pain and anger. “Our goals just very much changed,” she said. “Our visions changed. My goals didn’t change as a mom. I just think somewhere along the line, his goals changed. They felt possibly detrimental to me, and possibly dentrimental to me and the kids … No blame.”
She mentioned that a part of her “always will” love Jon. However, that is not the kind of love that once was there. She said that she loves the “memories we have together, the good times.” And Kate seems to be walking the a road path so many other divorcing people do every day – a road of acceptance on which the pain becomes less as we learn that there are more important things in life than battling a former spouse. “I would love to get to point where he can put his anger aside … The anger in me isn’t as raw as it once was. I would love to get to a point that we can converse like two adults. I am sure we will get there.”
In this view, Kate Gosselin isn’t so much different than all other divorcing people.
Where she is different is her view on her job. She believes that the spotlight is where she belongs and it is not time to quit. “We can’t turn life off … I can’t turn life off. In the last nine, 10 months, it’s gotten really crazy and I can’t seem to get away from it at this point. My goal in all this is I just want peace for my kids.” She feels she can’t leave the stage as “We’re too far gone. Stepping out of the spotlight when it’s prudent to do so is a good thing.”
“At this point, I can’t go back,” she said. “Let’s face it – being a nurse, a single mom of eight kids, I would not be able to provide for them in any way shape or form.” She stressed that the show “has become our primary income and for that I am very grateful.”
We would disagree with Kate. It is time to leave the camera. She will be just fine talking care of the children and there should be plenty of cash to avoid financial hardship. To us, it seems that Kate is just too attracted to the spotlight and working as a nurse is a step down she does not accept.