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The open conflict shown by Michael, Dina and Lindsay Lohan is exemplary for what divorce counselors try to avoid: A scenario of conflict addiction instead of an environment that enables a healing process. Following the publication of Lindsay’s meltdown on a phone call, the actress has made a sharp turn against her father calling him a deadbeat dad who threatened to kill her mom. What else could go wrong?
Lindsay’s communication tool of choice is Twitter. Considering the fact that she has almost 111,000 people who read her “tweets” that may be a very powerful and possibly sensitive way to express her feelings.
In a series of posts on Thursday, Lindsay Lohan described her father as a “deadbeat dad” who “needs help”. She wrote that the release of the tapes hurt her mother and her siblings – stating that her mother “she blames herself for staying w/him for so long, I’d beg her not to leave b/c he always threatened to kill her if she did.” She also noted that cheated on her mother and engaged in substance abuse. “I haven’t had a real relationship w/Michael Sr. In years. That is the truth,” she wrote.
At times, Michael Lohan appears to be the standard example of a single dad you definitely do not want to be. Granted that we do not know what really happens behind the scenes, and what may be the true motivation behind Michael Lohan’s actions, but the choices he has made recently were certainly not the best ones. Discussing concerns about your daughter on a national talk show, chatting about a conservatorship and releasing private conversations that are typically protected by a shield of child-parent trust, do not show any sign of the concerns Michael Lohan claims to have.
We give him the benefit of the doubt, and assume for a moment that in is scared to death about Lindsay’s emotional situation. However, going public with private information is playing with fire and neglects the needs of the person he should be concerned of. At least for now, Lindsay’s parents seem to be distracted by a high conflict scenario that both Dina and Michael should resolve. However, Lindsay already appears to be what is generally described as a “divorce casualty” and the outcome for the father could not be any worse.
If the public drama reflects the actual situation of the family, then it is obvious that much of a foundation that could be used for a normal and caring relationship between Lindsay and her father has been destroyed by rather selfish and irresponsible behavior. If Michael cares as much as he claims, then he needs to retract immediately. A parent class and counseling may be good ideas at this point.
