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cheatingThe Baltimore Sun is running an interview with a private investigator and book author on the reasons of cheating and his experience with presumably affected clients. And according to Bill Mitchell it seems that opportunity is the key catalyst for infidelity and extramarital affairs that may ultimately turn married parents into single parents. And, males and females cheat for very different reasons.

The private investigator said that 60 to 70% of adultery victims are women, while 30 to 40% are males. He noted that female cheating has dramatically increased in recent years due to the climbing presence of women in the workplace. So far nothing new, but Mitchell’s answers are getting interesting as far as how the genders differ in actual reasons for committing adultery.

He said that men “cheat to conquer, to experience more sex and for the buzz associated with cheating.” Ultimately, “their physical and egotistical drives set them up for an affair.” In contrast, women respond to “affection, attentiveness, compassion or listening.” At least Mitchell believes that women are not driven by the sexual part that comes with cheating. Cheating behavior, according to the private investigator, is also promoted by a “key role model”, which usually is a “parent who cheated”.

Jump over to the Baltimore Sun to read a few more notes on, for example, why celebrities cheat.

I can’t help but think that the underlying reason for cheating is opportunity in Mitchell’s view. I won’t contest that, but would like to throw morals into the equation. I remember a friend of mine saying “Dude, if she had any morals, would she have cheated on you?” Nope, she would not have cheated. I wonder if it really is opportunity?

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  • Anonymous9951

    How on Earth is cheating compassionate?? Making sure that your partner never finds out is compassionate, because you don't want them to suffer, but people don't have sex (be it with their partner, a stranger, a client/sex-worker etc.) because they feel compassion for them (although they may feel compassion for them, that's not why they have sex with them), they have sex for their own selfish reasons. What a complete fu..ing retard this character is. Does he even know what 'compassion' means?

    Even if you could force yourself to have sex for purely altruistic reasons, sexual attraction and compassion are two separate emotions. Sexual attraction is amoral, it's shallow, compassion is not.