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This question has been on my mind for some time and after today’s airing of the Ellen DeGeneres I’d like to ask for some thoughts. Do we have to feel sorry for the rough time Kate Gosselin is going through? Or should she just grow up and deal with the life she has chosen?
Any single parent knows that life can be tough and mean. For some, single parenthood has been a freight train with no lights barreling down a dark tunnel, hitting with full speed. Divorces bring dramatic experiences and often unimaginable emotional and economic pain that can destroy lives for years and often even decades to come. It is apparent that Kate has not seen separation pain yet, at least not if she believes her priority is marketing herself in TV shows and if she is concerned when she can get that next diamond ring.
Something is wrong here.
In an interview with Ellen DeGeneres, she complains about the fact that she has been “targeted and torn apart”. She explained that she feels that “certain events take place that makes us sitting ducks”, which would create an “easy target.” She says Jon talks too much, especially about her. Gee, Kate you are getting a divorce! Deal with it. You chose a life in the public eye that has given you so much in the past. This is the not so happy side of it.
Now without a wedding ring, Kate wants a new ring. She is attracted to one with eight diamonds and a pearl in the middle, describing her being surround by her eight young children. While this is a nice thought, Kate is the first divorcing woman I know of who is thinking about buying a diamond ring before everything is settled. I admit, I also had thoughts indulging myself and I believe that my ex-wife has also made some pretty bad financial decisions during our divorce. But a diamond ring? Come on.
I have to be fair; Kate said that she will only buy this ring when she has a new job. But this better be a darn good job on TV and not the nursing job she is apparently going after as a backup. As far as I know, nurses are still being paid well, but a big diamond ring might be difficult to justify.
There was also time to talk about her children on the show and, thankfully, she did point out that they are important to her: “I am a mother first. I will always be a mother, and I would die for my kids if need be. I would never put them in a situation that was dangerous or unsafe for them and like any mother.” She continued: “My focus is them. It’s not the paparazzi. My focus is not what trip I can go on, or what shows I can do as a result of this thing. This is my job. This is my paycheck, and so this is what I do.” Hmmh. Maybe the TV appearances are just a bit too much lately? Just a thought.
How much can Kate Gosselin be torn apart if she is still travelling the country and is chatting on talk shows?
Just yesterday, I received a book in the mail that might be good literature for Kate and Jon. There are things that can happen in divorces that are far beyond what Kate and Jon have experienced so far. The dedication to the book “A Family’s Heartbreak” (review coming up) reads: This book is dedicated to my son Adam. You are in my heart and thoughts and one day, I hope, in my life.” The book by author Michael Jeffries describes what catastrophic effect the alienation of children can have on a divorcing couple and their children. It is time for the Gosselins to start working towards a future for their children and remove them from the spot light. Within five or ten years, the public will not remember this drama. But the Gosselin children will.