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Do You Feel Sorry For Kate Gosselin?

kategosselinThis question has been on my mind for some time and after today’s airing of the Ellen DeGeneres I’d like to ask for some thoughts. Do we have to feel sorry for the rough time Kate Gosselin is going through? Or should she just grow up and deal with the life she has chosen?

Any single parent knows that life can be tough and mean. For some, single parenthood has been a freight train with no lights barreling down a dark tunnel, hitting with full speed. Divorces bring dramatic experiences and often unimaginable emotional and economic pain that can destroy lives for years and often even decades to come. It is apparent that Kate has not seen separation pain yet, at least not if she believes her priority is marketing herself in TV shows and if she is concerned when she can get that next diamond ring.

Something is wrong here.

In an interview with Ellen DeGeneres, she complains about the fact that she has been “targeted and torn apart”. She explained that she feels that “certain events take place that makes us sitting ducks”, which would create an “easy target.” She says Jon talks too much, especially about her. Gee, Kate you are getting a divorce! Deal with it. You chose a life in the public eye that has given you so much in the past. This is the not so happy side of it.

Now without a wedding ring, Kate wants a new ring. She is attracted to one with eight diamonds and a pearl in the middle, describing her being surround by her eight young children. While this is a nice thought, Kate is the first divorcing woman I know of who is thinking about buying a diamond ring before everything is settled. I admit, I also had thoughts indulging myself and I believe that my ex-wife has also made some pretty bad financial decisions during our divorce. But a diamond ring? Come on.

I have to be fair; Kate said that she will only buy this ring when she has a new job. But this better be a darn good job on TV and not the nursing job she is apparently going after as a backup. As far as I know, nurses are still being paid well, but a big diamond ring might be difficult to justify.

There was also time to talk about her children on the show and, thankfully, she did point out that they are important to her: “I am a mother first. I will always be a mother, and I would die for my kids if need be. I would never put them in a situation that was dangerous or unsafe for them and like any mother.” She continued: “My focus is them. It’s not the paparazzi. My focus is not what trip I can go on, or what shows I can do as a result of this thing. This is my job. This is my paycheck, and so this is what I do.” Hmmh. Maybe the TV appearances are just a bit too much lately? Just a thought.

How much can Kate Gosselin be torn apart if she is still travelling the country and is chatting on talk shows?

Just yesterday, I received a book in the mail that might be good literature for Kate and Jon. There are things that can happen in divorces that are far beyond what Kate and Jon have experienced so far. The dedication to the book “A Family’s Heartbreak” (review coming up) reads: This book is dedicated to my son Adam. You are in my heart and thoughts and one day, I hope, in my life.” The book by author Michael Jeffries describes what catastrophic effect the alienation of children can have on a divorcing couple and their children. It is time for the Gosselins to start working towards a future for their children and remove them from the spot light. Within five or ten years, the public will not remember this drama. But the Gosselin children will.

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  • renniebishop

    GOD love The gosslin children my heart goes out to them they were throwing into the lion's den without a choice, the parents are self centered, greedy and only care about money and what trips they can get from that show, kate acts like a witch and jon is so immiture to the point he moved to new york and left his children what is the matter with these two self centered people wake up and take your rose coloured subglasses of these children are suffering with the both of your antics i don;t think you both deserve such beautiful children that you were blessed with

  • Zalnivol

    She's doing the talk show(s) for attention, she has low self esteem right now, her husband openly cheated and is openly an AHOLE, for all of the public to see. Let any one of us deal with it and let's see how tactful we can react. I doubt anyone should criticize her for how she is handling her current situation. I don't think she nor Jon went into the show on TLC with the knowledge that it would tear their family apart, so give it a break, give them a break. She's a single mom now and she isn't sure how to handle it yet, given time and given time for the media attention to settle down and move on, she will be fine and so will their children.

  • Zalnivol

    She's doing the talk show(s) for attention, she has low self esteem right now, her husband openly cheated and is openly an AHOLE, for all of the public to see. Let any one of us deal with it and let's see how tactful we can react. I doubt anyone should criticize her for how she is handling her current situation. I don't think she nor Jon went into the show on TLC with the knowledge that it would tear their family apart, so give it a break, give them a break. She's a single mom now and she isn't sure how to handle it yet, given time and given time for the media attention to settle down and move on, she will be fine and so will their children.

  • Caroline

    I feel sorry for Kate only because of the vicious statements and actions by Jon Gosselin to date. He has been proven to be a liar and cheat with terrible advisors and legal counsel. His lawyer is a joke and now he needs to find a new lawyer in PA for the divorce, and a MD lawyer to fight with TLC in their contract dispute. People do divorce and bad things happen, but I think that this divorce needs to be done and the parties involved move on the best way they can.

    I don't feel sorry for Kate with the "I do it for the kids", "I can't pay my bills" and "I am a mom first" statements, though. These are meant to garner sympathy only, not 100% truthful. If she were doing things for the kids, she would not be giving interviews about the divorce AT ALL. She would stay quiet and handle things in the court, period. And, I would have gone to court for every single one of Jon's sleazy tactics, including trying to stop him legally from speaking publicly about her. She has several bank accounts and money saved, she is by no means unable to pay any bills. Jon stole that money which she shouldn't have, she should have gone to court immediately and left it at that. If she were doing it solely for the kids as she said, she would be with them more often, only giving interviews if and when needed for the show or publicity for the show - totally around her visitation schedule with Jon. There are weeks where neither of them are with the kids at all. And don't get me started on them giving the dogs back!

    Sorry for the long post, had to vent.

  • suzij

    Thank you for this article. I find it offensive that Kate Gosselin has so quickly turned to portraying herself as a "single mother" in an attempt to garner sympathy. While she might be a "single mother" in the literal sense, with her entourage and fulltime help she will never appreciate the struggles the true single mothers out there deal with on a daily basis.

    The wedding ring debacle is, in true Kate-speak, horrendously horrendous. The very notion of Kate having such a discussion with her children and her children reacting as she claims is preposterous. Her reaction when asked about the children receiving rings was, in my opinion, disturbing. Her children have been working to support the family, and her inability to recognize this borders on delusional. Finally, (and I know this is a long post!), has Kate really forgot so soon that she had no medical insurance when the sextuplets were born or for the first 2 years following, costing the Pennsylvania taxpayers well over a million dollars? Has Kate forgotten that she claimed being unable to feed her children then and sent requests for money to family, friends and her church congregation? Has Kate forgotten that it was just earlier this month that she claimed that, once again, she was unable to pay her bills? Maybe, just maybe, this time when Kate gets a job she should sock some away for a rainy day.

  • Marie

    What rough time? I know plenty of women who are single mothers who really don't have money to put food on the table. Why would I feel sorry for somebody who has a housekeeper, a nanny, a chef, a babysitter, a groundskeeper, etc? The fact that you even asked that questions shows just how out of touch you are with reality - just like Kate.

  • Thanks for your comment. Perhaps you had not enough time to read the entire article. Would you mind reading it again and then ask again if we are out of touch in the way you indicated?

  • Starr

    Of course the children will remember when their parents got divorced. All children do, not just the ones on TV. Everyone is making way to big a deal out of the divorce of a couple who has a TV show. People get divorced all the time, everyday. Get over it already!

  • Zalnivol

    exactly!